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Coaching the Child Who is Doing the Bullying

Begin the conversation by approaching your child empathetically and invite them into a private, non-distracting place to have a delicate conversation. Ask for the child’s experience regarding the bullying situation and assist them in developing strategies to resolve the situation.

1. Identify the problem
Ideas:
“I have been hearing that….”
“Many children have said that….”

2. Ask questions and gather information
Ideas:
“I’d like to hear from you about what happened.”
“How would you feel if this happened to you?”

3. Apply consequences
Idea:
Review rules for appropriate behavior you have at home and school.

4. Generate solutions for the future, and create a plan with the child
Idea:
“What are some ways to prevent this from happening again?”

5. Follow up
Ideas:
See how the plan is working.

Note: Be sure to coach the children who have been bullied separately from those who bullied them. Bullied children are often frightened, and they may deny that there is any problem when face-to-face with children who have harassed them repeatedly.

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